Discouragement, disappointment, failure, and setbacks—these are all things that can help us if we maintain an empowering mindset. The key to life is to learn from these experiences, and minimize the amount of time that we allow ourselves to stay discouraged. So the next time you start to feel discouragement, here is what you should do:

　　灰心，絕望，失敗和挫折-都是能幫助我們堅持剛強心態的貨色。性命的秘訣在于從這些閱歷中學習，減少我們連續萎靡灰心喪氣的時間。所以下次覺得低落的時候，試著干干這些：

　　1. Take the long view

　　從久遠的角度看

　　Discouragement generally occurs when our expectations (what we think should happen) don’t align with reality (what actually happens). In many cases our expectations are unrealistic, and this often has to do with how long we think things should happen. If we take a longer view, and relax our expectations a little, it can really help to decrease discouragement. The reality is that most things that are worthwhile take a lot of effort and time to come to fruition. So be patient!

　　當我們的冀望(我們覺得應當發生的事情)沒有變成事實(實際發生的事情)，我們就會失望。在許多情形下，我們的期冀都是不切實際的，這也和我們對時間的預估有著一定的關聯。如果我們從深遠去看，放低一下盼望，也能有效減輕我們的失落感。事實是最值得我們付出努力和時間最主要的事情就是等著好結果。所以耐煩點吧!

　　2. Remember, there is no such thing as failure. There is only education

　　記住!沒有真正的失敗，只是成長教育而已。

　　When we feel like we have failed at something, discouragement often follows. However, failure doesn’t really exist, except for the meaning that we give it. If we don’t get the result that we want, when we want it, we just need to take new action.

　　當以為我們在某些事失敗之后，低落感也隨之而來。然而，失敗并不真正的存在，除非我們給事情賦予了失敗的含意。如果我們沒有及時得到想要的成果，只需要采用新的舉動。與其把失敗當成是一件壞事，

　　We can choose, instead of thinking of failure as bad, to think of failure as education, and therefore good. When we view it this way we realize that failure isn’t something that is bad, or something to be avoided. It is simply feedback. When we think this way we ease discouragement.

　　我們可以抉擇把失敗看成是一種沉成長教導，一件好事。如果這樣看待問題，我們就會曉得失敗并不是什么壞事或者需要努力防止的事情。只是一個小挫折罷了。這樣想，低落感就能減輕啦。

　　3. Stay true to our vision. See it again in our mind

　　不擯棄理想，再做一次白日夢吧

　　If we are feeling discouraged, think about our vision. Think about what we want to create in our life. See it clearly. Feel what it would feel like if the image came into reality. What would this mean for us? How would we feel. Once we see it, and feel it, we will also feel empowered and our discouragement will dissipate.

　　感到沮喪的時候，想想自己的幻想。想想我們想要失掉些什么。細心的去想，感觸一下如果幻想成真會是什么感想。對我們會心味著什么?我們會有什么樣的心境。一旦我們去空想，去感觸，就會感到布滿了力氣，沮喪也就云消霧散了。

　　4. Don’t let our ego get in the way of our development

　　不要讓自負妨礙了自我的發展

　　Our ego is often the primary cause of our feelings of disappointment and discouragement. It doesn’t have to be this way. We can control our ego. When we do this, we are on the path of development. When we are internally strong enough to handle constructive criticism, and feedback, we receive the rewards of growth. Growth leads to happiness.

　　自信往往是造成失蹤感跟懊喪的最重要原因。實在并不必定要這樣，我們能夠節制自己。一旦把持了，我們就已經邁向了提高的階梯。一旦我們真正有才能去面對處置那些批評、挫折，我們就會得到成長的禮物。成長的止境是幸福。

　　5. Stop comparing ourself to others. We’re on a unique path

　　不要和別人比較，我們都是絕無僅有的

　　A sure fire, 100% guaranteed way to get discouraged is to focus on other people in a comparative way. Here is why: we generally see their victories, successes, and strengths. We see what they have and what we don’t. We see why they are better than us. When we do this we get discouraged and we feel sorry for ourselves. We don’t as easily see their struggles, their fears, their setbacks, and their failures.

　　毫無疑難，一直把自己和別人比較絕對會讓我們低落。為什么呢：我們往往看到的都是他們的結果、成功和長處。我們看到的是他們有我們卻不的局部，我們看到的是為什么他們比我們優良。一旦這樣，我們就很輕易感到失望為自己感到好受。同時，我們很少去關注他們的掙扎、懼怕，挫折和失敗。

　　So don’t do it. It isn’t empowering. Don’t compare. We are on a unique path. It is great to be inspired by another, but if by hearing another’s story, we feel that we are lesser, then we need to just focus on our own path.

　　所以不要這樣了，這只會讓你更加氣餒。不要比擬，我們都是舉世無雙的存在著。讓別人去鼓勵你誠然好，但如果別人的故事讓你認為本身有所不足，那么只要要專注自己就好了。

　　6. Detach from rewards, focus on our actions and giving our best work

　　忘掉所謂的獎賞，專注于行為，付出最大的努力

　　If our sole motivation for doing something is the reward that we might get from the action, then we are setting ourselves up for discouragement. Action should be its own reward. When it is, we are forever free. Freedom is at the heart of happiness. When we don’t need someone else’s praise for doing something, when we don’t need a “carrot” for performing our work, then we are truly free to just focus on our work and make it great. When we create great work we are happy.

　　如果我們做某件事獨一的能源在于可能會取得的獎賞，那么我們就不知覺走上了一條掃興之路。行動自身就值得被獎賞。這樣一來，我們永遠都是“自由之身”，自在是幸福的中心。如果在做一件事時不須要別人的嘉獎，也不需要對工作確定的嘉獎，那么我們就真的可能專一于工作做到最好。一旦獲得先進會十分開心。

　　7. Change our “rules” for being happy

　　轉變自己的“規定”獲得幸福

　　What rule do we have to be happy? What has to happen for us to feel successful? Is it in our control? If it isn’t then we might be setting ourselves up for failure. By rules I mean the set of circumstances that must be present for us to feel accomplished.

　　什么時候會覺得幸福?產生什么樣的事件會讓我們感到勝利?這在我們的掌控之中么?假如不是，那我們興許就把本人推向了失敗的不歸路。所謂的劃定，我指的是一些必需能讓咱們感到成功的特定場景。

　　We have to create rules that serve us. We have to live by rules that are within our control. Here are some of my rules: I am successful when I grow and improve. I am successful when I give my very best.

　　我們需要為自己制作規定，我們需要遵守這些可以由自己掌控的規則。比方我的規矩是：只要我成上進步就是成功，只有我付出盡力就是成功。

　　8. Consider who we are spending time with

　　想想我們該花時光和誰在一起

　　The people who we spend the most time with might be a major contributing factor to feeling discouragement. This can be a very hard one, especially if those people are family and loved ones. We have a tendency to become who we most frequently associate with, and if we spend all our time with people who are constantly negative, and feeling sorry for themselves, we can be influenced to see life through a similar lens.

　　和我們相處最久的那些人也許是帶來沮喪的最大因素。這聽起來不大舒暢，尤其是他們會是家人或愛人。我們總會不知覺的變成身邊最親熱人的樣子，如果我們始終和消極的人在一起，為他們感到難過，我們也會被影響和他們一樣去對待生活。

　　So what can we do? We can’t simply cut loved ones out of our lives. So what we should do is simply expand our social network. Join a peer group that is positive. Start to surround ourselves with positive people as a balance. Over time we will start to take on their mindset and this will help with any feelings of discouragement we may have.

　　那該怎么辦呢?我們不能簡略的把愛人消除在生涯之外。所以能做的就是擴展自己的社交圈。參加踴躍的同齡人小組。讓四周充斥了正能量的人作為均衡。人不知鬼不覺我們就會汲取這些正能量，也能輔助我們減少喪氣感。

　　9. Get outside, move and breathe

　　出去運動一下，呼吸新鮮空氣

　　Fresh air and sunshine can have an amazing effect on our feelings. Sometimes when we are feeling down, all that we need to do is simply to go outside and breathe. Movement and exercise is also a fantastic way to feel better. Positive emotions can be generated by motion. So if we start to feel down, take some deep breathes, go outside, feel the fresh air, let the sun hit our face, go for a hike, a walk, a bike ride, a swim, a run, whatever. We will feel better if we do this.

　　新鮮空氣和陽光真的能給我們帶來不一樣的感受。當我們覺得沮喪時，只需要簡單的走出去呼吸新鮮空氣。活動錘煉能讓心情變好，好的心情能帶來更多積極的情感。如果我們覺得低落，那么就深呼吸，去郊外看看，感受新穎的空氣，享受陽光的沐浴、郊游、漫步、騎車或是游泳跑步，什么都可以。只有這樣做相對會很開心。

　　10. Talk to our mentor

　　和導師對話

　　Our mentor can be a great source of wisdom when we are feeling down. So when discouragement rears its ugly head, go have a coffee with our mentor. They will be able to give us wisdom based on experience. In many cases they will also give us tough love and help us to snap out of it if we are feeling sorry for ourselves. They will also help us to make a specific plan of action to work our way out of discouragement.

　　在沮喪時，導師是我們最大的智慧之源。所以當失落感悄悄到來，跟導師一起喝杯咖啡吧。他們可以依據自己的教訓給我們一些智慧提醒。良多時候，他們給予我們的愛和關心能幫助我們走出自大，也會幫我們制訂具體的打算來走出沮喪。

　　11. Go find someone who we can help

　　去找那些需要我們贊助的人

　　This is a great way to alleviate discouragement. Go find someone who needs help, and then help them. It is really that simple. When we serve others, when we go out of our way to help other people in need, we feel better. It is impossible to be discouraged when we are giving all our efforts on behalf of another. Discouragement is a really a self-driven symptom. We are focusing on ourselves. That is why we feel bad. However, when we stop thinking about ourselves, and when we direct our attention to another, we feel better.

　　這是減少沮喪最好的方法。找那些需要幫助的人，而后幫助他們吧。這真的無比簡單。在服務別人的時候，在幫助那些需要幫助的人時，我們也會開心。當全身心的幫助別人，從他人角度想問題時，沮喪也就不復存在了。沮喪是一個內化的感情，當我們只關注自己時才會有如斯蹩腳的感到。然而當我們結束斟酌自己，開端轉向幫助別人的時候，所有都好起來了。

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